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1. What is your purpose in life?
a) To serve and worship Allah
b) To earn a degree and become rich
c) To have a fairy-tale marriage and live happily ever after
2. Do you accept everything in the Quran, or do you have descrepancies?
a) I accept it all
b) I accept it all, but don’t agree with all of it
c) I accept most of it
d) I don’t really read too much of it
3. Is it more important to just be a good person, or to practice Islam?
a) Being a good person goes along with being a good Muslim
b) I practice Islam, but I think being a good person is more important
c) I don’t really practice, but I’m a good person which is what matters
4. What does Islam mean to you concerning marriage?
a) Islam shows that marriage and love is for the sake of Allah
b) Islam tells us how to write contracts
c) Islam tells us how many wives a man can have
d) Islam has nothing to do with it; it’s between man and woman.
5. Are you a picky eater?
c) It’s depends
d) I eat what’s infront of me (provided it’s not swine!)
6. What’s the most important thing for a successful marriage?
a) Rememberance of Allah
b) Good lovin’!
c) Following the Prophet (saas) as an example
d) a and c
This would be a Sister asking a Brother:
1.)If your wife’s behavior is out of control(i.e.Ranting, Raving, Throwing things)upon a disagreement between you the two of you, how would you react?
A.) Displine the wife with good oldfashioned corporal punishment?
B.) Seperated yourself from your wife for the evening, and ignore her in order to punish her?
C.) Step out of the home for a bit, and wait for her to cool off, return and speak calmly and gently?
2.) Do you feel you have the right to Disapline your wife, if so what Hadeeth or Surahs do you take this belief from?
3.) If the evening meal is not prepared in time, the home is a wreck, the kids are running around screaming, what is your reaction:
A.)Do you come in and start yelling at your wife, demanding to know why the home and meal is not taken care of?
B.)Ask your lovely wife, which Allah(S.W.T.) Provided for you, “Dear is there anything I can do for you?”
C.) Or would you set the children down with an activity, start picking up the home, so your wife can concentrate on the meal?
4.) The Prophet (Sal’Allah’Allahee Wa’Salum) approached his wives in a very gentle, respectful manner, when it came to intimacy. Intimacy being your right in Islam, do you feel it’s alright to ever demand Intimacy? Or are you understanding regarding a woman’s feelings at the time, if say she is having pain, or is tired, or feeling sad?
I did a rough count, seems there are 240 multiple choice questions and many other different variations of similar questions.
1)What role do you see yourself playing within your future family?
2)Are there any aspects to yourself that you don’t like or wish or are striving to change?
3)How would you manage issues of concern, anger or frustration etc
4)How would you deal with people you don’t like, one who is friendly towards you but irritating, arrogant etc.
# What is your credit like?
1-I have a very good credit.
2-I have a bad credit.
3-I don’t have a credit history.
4-I don’t know my credit score.
# What is your opinion on abortion?
1-I think it’s wrong.
2-I think it’s the woman’s final decision.
# What do you think of Evolution and creationism?
1-I look at the Quran and sunnah for answers.
2-As long as something is confirm with what’s in the Quran, I am ok with it.
3-I am not sure.
# Would you keep in touch with your ex’s regardless of what your spouse feel about it?
1-I have the right to talk to whomever I want to, and my spouse should accept that.
2-I will stop any friendship that might treaten my relationship or make my spouse uncomfortable.
# If you have a Bachelors degree and are pursuing a Masters degree, Would you take a break from school to work and help your spouse if your household is going through financial hardship?
1-I will make sure we are stable financially before continuing my education.
2-My education comes first.
If your wife has just had a child, how long wll you wait before having another or would you consider using contraception for sometime?
1. I do not belive in contraception
2. We will gte our next child whenever Allah wills without the use of contraception..
3. I would wait for 2 years so that the child can be weaned off at the age of 2
4. I would wait for 1 year
If you are marrying a person of a different culture and you come across a recurrinng habit in my spouse’s family, that may seem different to yours, how would you react?
1. there is no such this as culture in Islam.
2. Im willing to be open to the different cultural habits as long as it falls within the boundaries of the Qur’an and Sunnah
3. Marriage is a compromise, so i will try to tolerate it however my spose will have to sometimes understand i might not like it and not persistently do it…
What role do you see yourself playing within your future family, financially? (if asked to a man)
1) I would be the sole bread winner and my wife will not be able to work
2) I will be the main provider but my wife can work part time and contribute as she sees fit
3) My wife can work but she is not obligated to chip in
4) its a 50-50 chipping in between me and my wife
What role do you see yourself playing within your future family, financially? (if asked to a woman)
1) I want to work whether he likes it or not
2) I am willing to work part time and contribute
3) I want to work but I dont want to chip in
4) its a 50-50 chipping in between me and my husband
5)I will work full time if the need arises
6) I dont want to work at all under any circumstance
What role do you see yourself playing within your future family, when making decisions?
1) What I say goes
2) My spouse and I will discuss and what evere we see is the best decision in the circumstance goes
3)My spouse and I discuss but if our views clash, my opinion goes
4)My spouse and I discuss but if our views clash whatever is the best answer that holds more ground goes
Are there any aspects to yourself that you don’t like or wish or are striving to change? (tick as many as you like for this one)
1)I have a ‘salah problem’ in that I dont pray on time
2) I have a ‘salah problem’ in that I have started to pray but am not very regular but am seriously working on it
3) I have a ‘salah problem’ in that i dont pray at all but am willing to change
4) I dont have a beard but am willing to grow one
5) I have an anger management issue but Im willing to change and if problem very serious go into counselling
5) I have a terrible spending issue
6) I have a terrible addiction problem but I am working on it
How would you manage issues of concern, anger or frustration etc
1) Keep quiet till the holse thing calms down
2) Wham my fist through what ever is on my way
3) Opps thatsthe ‘n’th phone that I smashes due to my anger
4) Id sulk till my face drops a mile
5)Sulk for a while but eventually cool down
How would you deal with people you don’t like, one who is friendly towards you but irritating, arrogant etc.
1) I would not associate with them at all and would expect my spouse to not mingle with the family as i dont like them
2) I wuld keep at alrms length
3) I would be friends but express my feelings towards them with the hope that the change
4) I would not associate with them at all and but if my spouse has a good relationship with their family Iwould not stop her from contacting them
If your husband/wife had residency in a country other than yours and was not able to be with you would you still marry them?
3. need careful consideration
4. trust Allah
If your husband /wife was of a different culture, would it be inportant to you, that he or she adapt?
3. it would be secondary to learning about Islam
4. In time you would expect it
If your husband/wife was a revert to islam, would you be patient in teaching them.
1. yes, 100%
2. I would insist they make haste
3. Its up to them
4. I would encourage not push
If your husband /wife, did not speak arabic. How Important would it be for them to learn
4. not very important
5, not at all
May Allah increase our benificial knowledge and help us to Implement the Knowledge he has blessed us with. May Allah protect our brothers and sister all over the world Ameen Ameen Ameen
Haroon Said,August 24th, 2008 @3:35 am
Question: How you been married before and for how long?
a)Yes i have, it was long term (more than two years?)
b)Yes i have, it was short term (less than two years)
c)No i havent.
Question: Do you want to have babies?
a)Yes, as soon as possible
b) Yes, after i get to know my spouse properly.
c) Yes, i do, but when it feels right.
d) No i don’t
e) No, but i may change my mind.
Question: Do you like being slim or chubby?
a)I am happy with my shape.
b)i would like to be thinner
c) i would like to be chubbier
Question: What do you look for in a partner?
c) Family/ relations/status
f) all of the above.
Question: Have you ever been in a relationship?
a) Yes, a very long term relationship
b) Yes, but very short term
p.s plz make it easier to see which ones need changing.
would you marry anyone that isn’t from your home country?
c) not sure
AlHamdulilahi rabbil alamiiiiiinnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you brothers n sisters theres 218 questons so far,,,,,,,, now i just hope the 218 is different questions I see some repeated even with them same answers but AlHamdulila still thanks for helping!!!!!!!!! I took someone elses questions that they didnt answer n revised it n added a couple different questions its hard to think up too many originals on my own…. but questions about STD’s and jail are impORTANT!!!!!!!!!!!! we live in a dangerous time close to the end of times theres alotta crazy devious stuff to watch out for. never feel too shy to ask about a serious thing because people say oh u dont have to worry about that!!!!!!!!!!!1 because if i could bet u then 9 outta 10 u shoulda asked.. because i can think of a good couple of things i wish i woulda asked b4 i was married……………………… especially when we’re 1st new generation muslims…….. we dont have muslim parents to turn to n say ma pa i messed up what am i suppossed to right by ALLAH subanahu wa ta ala! so plzzzzz speak UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
most questions are good as multiple choice but some should be like fill in the blank or short essay questions. like “do u know the role of the wife/husband in islam?” hehehe 4 those who dont know, it’ll b easy to pick the best answer on a good guess………. im just saying dont take no wooden nickels n keep the wool off our eyes
Would you change yourself into the person that your partner wants you to be?
Do you want to have kids immediately after you get married?
Are you willing to live w/ your in-laws if you had to?
Do you believe that being possessive is a way of showing that you love someone alot?
What do you think of smoking?
a.Strictly against it
b.I’d prefer a non-smoker over smoker
c.I’d prefer a smoker over a non-smoker
c.Don’t mind it at all, either is fine
well this is suppossed to be extendable to ramadan the 7th well its ramadan the 8th at night time too……. gimme an update people whats really good what does baba think of our work??????????////////////////=????????????????
Assalam alaikum sunni4lyf & all,
Thank you for your help. May Allah reward you and bless you with a happy marriage.
We’ve been spending long hours organizing the lists and removing all the duplicated questions, and making non-multiple choice ones into multiple choice format.
So, LOTS of WORK…
We have three brothers helping out… if any of you want to volunteer for this project, please shout (using the contact us form).
If you are good, Baba Ali may hire you, I’m not sure, but we will tell him how good you worked, in-sha-Allah.
There are many good questions contributed, so we may need to randomly pick a winner. But, we will mention all those contributors.
Hope this can be done within this week, in-sha-Allah.
May Allah reward you with the sweetest date at Iftar time
Would any practicing muslimahs be willing to relocate to more traditional muslim countries as a result of getting married to someone there?
(The suitor isn’t a typical muslim from that country, rather a person who’s lived in/associated with three different countries & cultures — to the point where he’s something of each but different as a whole at the same time; UAE, Pakistan, USA)
I found this off of some website
I am a sister and this is my exact situation
kuwait( born and raised )canada (higer education and rents expecting future spouse to emerge from there) (I am not a native of any of the 2 mentionned countries never been to my native land more or less have no idea what back home really is)
I haven’t taken a look at all of the questions but I have a comment. Some of the MCQs are very good and well-thought of, however I noticed that some of the answers were presented in a distinct order, usually ascending order, towards what seems the most “pious” response. This may taint the honesty and accuracy of the responses because it makes the responder feel strongly as if the response will be judged on a very clear rating.
For example, what do you do in your free time? The answers go from something very involved in the Dunya to seeking Ilm and reading Quran. Maybe if the answers are shuffled up in no particular order, the responder may feel more inclined to tell the honest truth.
Just my two pence, because I felt the bias myself while mentally answering a few of these questions.
Some questions that I think may be important:
1) If you get to know about your spouse’s previous ‘dark’ past, Would you
a) be upset but learn not to judge him/her according to it in future
b) monitor them regardless of the fact that they have changed
c) get divorced
d) ignore it all together superficially but bottle up anger inside
2) Which situation is most important to you right now? (this is for brothers only)
a) an important business meeting in which you’d be getting a contract worth
million dollars. A good secure future for family.
b) calling your old parents and inquiring about their health
c) after the first week of wedding, taking your wife out for shopping and/or for dinner , just keeping up with fulfilling of duties that Allah has enforced upon you.
3) If someone does not give you your right, Would you
a) leave his matter with Allah alone
b) go after him and teach him a lesson
c) talk to him and convince him that you must be given your right
d) scream that you would take this to the ‘Higher Authorities’
4) What does ‘Hijab’ mean to you? (for both sisters AND brothers)
a) covering up your whole body, not staring at the opposite gender and only
communicate to them through chatting (MSN,yahoo etc)
b) covering up your whole body, staring is not permissible but can look at him/her to assess whether he/she looks like someone you know
c) covering up your whole body, not staring at the opposite gender. Instead stare at one’s own feet and try to show that they are really interesting
d) covering of a lady’s body in the most perfect manner
5) Would you like a wife who is
b) caring,sweet,intelligent,mindful of Allah
c) mindful Allah only, don’t care about the rest
d) sweet,caring, humorous,intelligent,beautiful
I don’t know but these questions show what type of a person exactly is.
1.Do you consider yourself open-minded?
2. Do you believe in the “FOB” mentality?
Is islam allowing the boy marry to 2 girls with same parents? in short they are sisters..but the eldest is the ist..but now the eldest cant be pregnant and the boy fel-inlove with the sister of her wife. Did islam allow the boy to marry 2nd time of his sis-inlaw?
my questions have mostly been mentioned before but heres 1 more:
what would u do if i became ill may Allah forbid?
would u marry again?
stick by me?
would you wash my dead body if i died?
Baba Ali has picked a winner for the context.
September 1st, 2008 @12:20 am
5) How important is it for you to marry someone from your own culture?
~a) For the marriage to work, they should be from the same culture.
~b) It’s not crucial, but it may make things a little easier.
~c) To please my parents I will marry inside my culture.
~d) Very, I feel an attraction towards people from my own culture.
~e) Culture is irrelevant.
Did you find talking to Allah good?
I think a good question is
What are you doing to study the religion better?
a. I read a lot of Islamic books on my own
b. I visit Islamic websites and try to learn as much as I can possibly learn
c. I go to local madarassa where I learn to memorize the Quran and hadiths
d. I plan to go out of the States to study abroad in Mecca or Madina to really learn about the religion as a whole Insha’Allah.